I'm not defending it. I'm correcting your misinformation. You are claiming that ACA plans do not cover childbirth. They do. You are claiming that this event alone costs 40K, which is not accurate. It hits your out of pocket max, exactly as designed.
It sounds like you have never looked at an ACA silver plan, which is the lower deductible/out of pocket max option. I also have a family of 5, and have a $1800 per year out of pocket max from an ACA plan. You would still have the same level of premiums as you do now for silver plans, but you would save 13K a year. You are picking bad plans, dude.
Our system has problems, but when you make enough to not be subsidized, yet still pick a crappy 40K per year plan, that is beyond the systemic problems. It is a bad choice. There are insurance consultants who work with people, especially high income people, to find good plans for their family. You should be calling them.
Dude, you don't even have your own facts straight and you are embarrassing yourself. It's clear you have no experience, don't understand your own sources you provided, or any clue how child birth actually works from a medical billing standpoint.
Edit: what do I have to gain from spreading "misinformation?" I just want better / more options?