I was homeless by 16 and had no safety net, had to graduate high school on my own while living out of someone's garage, and generally take care of myself most of my life due to absentee, drug-addict parents, and I can tell you that this trauma only worsened my executive function by the time I had the privilege of being able to sit back and reflect from a place of security and comfort.

I'm sorry you have resentment issues... definitely get that.