I know nothing about this subject and I come to HN as basically an uneducated peasant. But I like technology and the discussion had here. You say responding quickly is critical and that makes sense. Humans will often do things like start by saying well or ummm, or short little utterances that allows us a second to process the information. Too much and it would probably feel like a bad trait but a little sprinkled in and just inserting it to buy a bit of time say on longer responses is that something that would work? Anyways again I know nothing just what came to mind reading your post.
totally- it's a balancing act. There's a lot of behavioral elements here, for example how do we detect an interrupt versus an affirmation? Or often, other humans actually talk over the very end of someones sentence (in an endearing way) when they're excited to reply
Theres a lot of micro behaviors that we're researching and building around that will continue to push the experience to be more and more natural