> The reality is probably somewhere in the middle.
I think such paradoxes demonstrate we probably need a completely different approach than anything we've done so far.
Utilitarianism feels to me like Mill & Bentham discovered basic arithmetic and didn't even realise there was more to maths than that.
It is perhaps simply the case that such things are inherently paradoxical. There is nothing in the stars that says ethics should obey PnC!
You see a paradox and say "well that's not right, we should do something about it." This has been the story since Kant, but for his part, everyone seems to forget that he doesn't ultimately "solve" his antinomies, he just leaves them as conclusions, "effects of pure reason."
It seems way more unreasonable to assert that, in fact, there is some consistent, complete ethical framework out there, but we havent found it yet, than it is to just accept that some kernels of truth or sense are not formalizable in the classical sense.