alt Hacker News> Retrospectives have been used in my career, without failure, without a single exception, to slap developers into rushing even more. That's what all managers
Dude, no. Kick managers out of the retro. The retro is a place for uncomfortable candor between peers, not another place for your manager to hold court. They need to leave the room while you decide what’s a problem, and what is not a problem (yet). Once you have a plan on the table you can bring the boss back in to discuss the redacted summary of the meeting and any proposals that require their assistance.
They didn’t work for you because you’ve done them wrong at every single place. I’ve had to fight twice to do it right, but we won both times via solidarity.
I haven't "done" anything. They were forced on me.
I get what you're saying and with time I started fighting for something 90% the same as you are describing. But most of the time I had no choice. It was "our way or the highway".
And since I was financially and career-wise extremely stupid for most of my life and career... yeah. I worked with idiots and slave-drivers.
I am looking to finally change that by changing the way I conduct myself. You hiring? Yeah, I didn't make myself an excellent advertisement with my original comment but at least people will know where I stand.