> Then he votes for the anti-trans candidate.

> How do you square that circle?

I don't know your dad, maybe he doesn't see that candidate as "anti-trans"?

If you think that some group has unfair benefits you can vouch for stripping those benefits without seeing yourself as "anti". Your drive is not hatred but fairness. You can be misguided but that's a different question.

If you think church must pay taxes, it doesn't make you anti-church. If you want to reduce police funding it doesn't make you anti-police. If you want stricter control of guns that doesn't make you anti-guns.

The whole "anti" split is indeed a sing of the tribalism which in US takes a binary form. You're either with us or against us.