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timewizard05/14/20257 repliesview on HN

Did you have children or did you live alone?


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epistasis05/14/2025

As someone with children, I can not imagine the bliss of living in Manhattan and being able to do things without needing a car.

Car-centric urban planning is hell with kids. You have to load them up into the car for any small trip. You can't walk or bike anywhere because cars make it so dangerous.

My only regret about living in the US is this car hellscape that is so hard to avoid. It's mandated by law, not chosen by the market.

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weeksie05/14/2025

I live in Manhattan with a kid and I love not needing a car. I walk my daughter to school and I walk to work from there. It's great.

andrepd05/14/2025

I'm already imagining what kind of arguments you are preparing. Kids are infinitely better off somewhere they can just bike places with their friends, compared to a car-centric hellhole: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHlpmxLTxpw

throw0101c05/15/2025

> Did you have children or did you live alone?

With regards to children, some couples do have them and concluded that a car in the city is not worth the hassle; famous example:

* https://www.instagram.com/cargobikemomma/

* https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PoKcQRlDGs (interview)

Car share would also be handy in some situations. Or even going from two cars to one.

928340923205/15/2025

Car-centric design is hell for parents and kids alike.

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donohoe05/14/2025

I live in Brooklyn with kids and do not have a car. Equally possible in Manhattan - have car-less friends with kids there too.

Just saying it is possible, and certainly not everyone’s choice.

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throwaway203705/15/2025

The children part I understand, but why is it important is the OP lived alone?