You could put the dummy member into the embedded node. But for intrusive data structures you often want them to erase the type so that you write generic algorithms as regular functions. In this case, it makes more sense to have a run-time check do to down casts. I do this with my variadic type which has an intrusive "super" member: https://godbolt.org/z/ofdKe7Pfv The overhead is often completely removed by the compiler.
Mhm. Putting the dummy member into the embedded node doesn't give a path from the proper object to find the embedded node "mid-struct". run-time checks are the "easy way out". We/I'll stick to macro soup probably, so we have compile-time checks.
btw. For ISO C WG14… has anyone suggested adding _Include to the preprocessor, along the lines of _Pragma? It'd really help with doing this kind of really long macros, hiding the clunky "#define, #define, #define, #include" inside a macro…