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mr_mitmlast Saturday at 11:44 AM3 repliesview on HN

And what's the lesson for parents? Can it be counter productive to praise your child a lot?


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henghenglast Saturday at 2:39 PM

Don't just reward your child for being smart.

Reward them for listening, integrating, being nice towards others, relaxed, comfortable, flourishing, in their lane

1auralynnlast Saturday at 9:08 PM

The answer here is actually teach them to self-evaluate, e.g. What do you think about your drawing? Should we hang it up?

Got this from Steve Peters: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Peters_(psychiatrist)

ajuclast Saturday at 11:50 AM

Praise the effort not the result. And especially don't make it into identity of the child.

Best: good job studying for that exam.

Meh: good job passing that exam.

Worst: you so smart, everything comes easy to you.