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aspenmayerlast Tuesday at 7:02 AM0 repliesview on HN

My thoughts and views on this matter are informed by my beliefs as much as by the law.

Morality doesn’t flow downstream from legality, but the other way around: legality is downstream of morality. Unjust laws ought not be followed in the same way that unlawful orders must be disobeyed. Yet, one must submit to the law and its consequences in order for civil disobedience to function.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Vengeance belongs to the Lord, after all.

I find their actions troubling, but not inherently justified. The fact that they faked injuries in order to present themselves as victims is especially concerning, but considering their father’s connections in the police department, I think they feared retaliation even after their abuser was killed. It’s a really tragic case. The fact that they were questioned initially without legal representation or knowledge of their rights further muddies the waters, but all we really know is a man is dead. He should have been tried and convicted, and then jailed or executed, because he seems entirely guilty, but we don’t have all the facts. I think we know enough to determine that he was isolating and abusing them, with no escape or end in sight. They were not able to imagine any other life. They deserved to look their abuser in the eye in court and see him convicted, but their own actions, and his, seemed to make that a near impossibility. With conviction comes the possibility of forgiveness and salvation, and I hope that they are able to find the peace that forgiveness brings, not that he himself seems to deserve it, from them especially.

The good news is that the women are likely to have all charges dropped.

The cycle of violence associated with feuds and bad blood are linked with honor cultures especially. I don’t know much about the psychology of the individuals involved in this case, but the fact that their father literally rang a bell and expected his daughters to be at his beck and call leads me to believe that he didn’t see them as having the same rights as he did, if he even thought of them at all outside of what they could do for him. Their uncle, the brother of their father, seems to claim a grievance, and I am concerned that this cycle of violence may not be over.

Hurt people hurt people. Hate can’t drive out hate. Only love can do that. I hope that the girls can find some peace and happiness in this world, and even someone or something to love. Lord knows they found little of that in life so far.