this: > ASAP when I connect with someone <

Just one point to add: Have a 5min call before to hear the voice. Weeks ago I had an "experience" with someone, her texts were absolutely OK but with small typos, some which are typical if you are learning the language but all in all it was possible to have a conversation.

Then we met.

She could barely form a useful sentence in real life conversation in our langugage, and she didnt speak English :-/