> When I ask myself who in my friends circles has had the happiest, longest lasting relationships it almost never were the guys with the money.

But that's also consistent with money being the ticket of entry, the thing you need to have to be considered as a partner in the first place (much of the time). Especially in the context of dating apps where there are so many to choose from, you might not even get the chance to show yourself as a kind, emotionally stable, fun guy to be around.