This is one of those things that, for some people, will be simple but not easy.

If you grew up with an emotionally erratic parent or caregiver, who might suddenly explode with anger at unpredictable times, that’s probably why you’re unwilling to bluntly address what should be simple issues. You were conditioned early on to think that anything that could possibly be conceived as critical would be met with anger and possibly violence. So you avoid exposing yourself to that risk.

What you have to learn, and what this post is indirectly trying to tell you, is that’s not normal, and most people won’t react like that.