TLDR Self-hosting isn’t dying because people stopped caring. It’s dying because the complexity has gotten out of hand.

This post highlights how something that used to be a fun, lightweight hobby has turned into a full-time maintenance burden. Systems like Matrix are powerful, but they’ve become so intricate that even skilled engineers struggle to run them reliably. The result is a slow drift back toward centralized platforms, not out of preference, but because convenience keeps winning over autonomy. It’s a reminder of the growing gap between the ideal of a user-owned internet and the realities of modern software.