Seconding this. I pivoted to tech in my early 30s and feel I've missed out on a lot of community building opportunities.
Self-plug: consider Handmade Cities. We have a simple meetups [0] page if you decide you appreciate our ethos. Hopefully we have an active meetup location near you?
In any case, good luck on finding the right community!
Recurse Center might be a good option https://www.recurse.com