I'm in a upper-middle neighbourhood and my kids go to public school. Not having a individual learning plan is the exception (I think that makes me double-exceptional). Classrooms DO NOT get more education assistant resources and combine this will the move to integrate kids who ehsitorically wouldn't consider attending regular school means teachers spend all their time managing the classroom and the parents.

>> the older one doesn't talk in school, period.

If the kid is completely non-verbal there's no way they should be in a class with regular kids. This is extremely unfair to the class.