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neogodlessyesterday at 10:31 PM1 replyview on HN

I often feel like a "giver" in conversations, asking all the questions but never being given opportunities to share my own stories or viewpoint...

I seek and value friends that DO ask about me, and then try to remind myself to not take it for granted, and return the favor to them!

This gives some additional lens, though, to be flexible with "takers" and give them credit for putting themselves out there.


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skobesyesterday at 10:46 PM

Once I realized that some people expect and are happy for you to jump in with unprompted thoughts or stories, it became easier for me to be intentional about doing so.

I think I'm a lot better now than when I was younger at adapting to a wide range of conversational styles, mostly just from paying more attention to that dynamic.

Do you feel like your conversational toolbox has evolved over time? :)

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