There appears to be a dark pattern occurring where the Tahoe update is selected by default and you need to uncheck it to just install the security update.
It’s the same on iPad. You get a notification about 18.7.3 being available, but when tapping on it, the update screen preselects 26.2.
Offering the most recent update first is not a "dark pattern".
Is there a new technological space race between Microsoft and Apple, to see who can engineer more dark patterns into their software, forcing unwanted updates onto its users?
These techniques used to be exclusive to spyware distributors.