Yeah I'm also wondering that. I'm looking for self-host PostgreSQL after Cockroach changed their free tier license but found the HA part of PostgreSQL is really lacking. I tested Patroni which seems to be a popular choice but found some pretty critical problems (https://www.binwang.me/2024-12-02-PostgreSQL-High-Availabili...). I tried to explore some other solutions, but found out the lack of a high level design really makes the HA for PostgreSQL really hard if not impossible. For example, without the necessary information in WAL, it's hard to enforce primary node even with an external Raft/Paxos coordinator. I wrote some of them down in this blog (https://www.binwang.me/2025-08-13-Why-Consensus-Shortcuts-Fa...) especially in the section "Highly Available PostgreSQL Cluster" and "Quorum".

My theory of why Postgres is still getting the hype is either people don't know the problem, or it's acceptable on some level. I've worked in a team that maintains the in house database cluster (even though we were using MySQL instead of PostgreSQL) and the HA story was pretty bad. But there were engineers manually recover the data lost and resolve data conflicts, either from the recovery of incident or from customer tickets. So I guess that's one way of doing business.