And I lost data with XFS.

Doesn't tell us anything. Which product, version.

Paragon's NTFS driver is now (after open sourced) part of the Linux kernel, and this one is rw.

(My data loss with XFS was some 20 years ago with Linux 2.4.x after a power loss. I've also had RAID5 write hole ZFS data loss a couple of years later, on FreeBSD, and that was with a BBU for the hardware raid. Ever since, I learned to disable write cache, until I've seen NVMe with PLP for cache.)