alt Hacker NewsThe basic problem with this is that the ones that are trying too hard are doing so because the standard approach failed.
Maybe you get lucky, but it's not a general solution.
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nuancebydefault • 01/17/2026
For me it was the other way around. For many years I tried hard and I was wondering why it did not work.
What is the standard approach?
I find that being genuine and vulnerable and having no hidden agenda works wonders.