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pixl97yesterday at 6:52 PM1 replyview on HN

You mean

"As with anything in life it depends on a huge number of variables such as location, number of allies the other person has, the threat potential you represent, the number of allies you have, your standing on the social ladder, if you're in a position of power, your ability to understand social clues, the exact method how you ask, yada yada"


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ArnoVWyesterday at 9:44 PM

No. It delends on how you ask.

Did you walk over? Did you say hi? Did you lower yourself to be around their height? Give them a second or two to get used to you? Tell them first that their noise is loud ? Ask them in a respectable tone if they would lower it, just a bit? Did you give the impression that you were asking, not demanding?

Of course I won't ask a drunk or aggressive looking person. But there is a wrong way to ask, and a better one.

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