In reverse order they were asked ..
The best argument I've ever come across against using RAII is that you end up with these nests of objects pointing to one another, and if something fails, the cleanup code can really only do one thing, which is unwind and deallocate (or whatever the cleanup path is). This structure, generally, precludes the possibility of context dependent resource re-usage on initialization failure, or on deallocation, because you kind of have to have only one deallocation path. Obviously, you could imagine supporting in an RAII context, but, the point is that you probably have to put a fair bit of conscious effort into doing that, whereas if you have a less .. rigid.. ownership model, it becomes completely trivial.
I agree that the allocation model and ownership model are independent concepts. I mentioned arena allocation because the people I know that reject the traditional C++ ownership model generally tend to favor arenas, scratch space, freelists, etc. I'm specifically interested in an ownership model that works with arenas, and tracks ownership of the group of allocations, as opposed to the typical case we think about with RAII where we track ownership of individual allocations.
There are plenty of people who use RAII with arenas for nested group of objects.
Bloomberg for example had a strong focus on that, and they enhanced the allocator model quite significantly to be able to standardize this. This was the reason for stateful allocators, scoped allocators, uses-allocator construction and polymorphic memory resources.
That "nest of objects point to each other" makes no sense ... RAII is just a technique where you choose to tie resource management to the lifetime of an object (i.e. acquire in constructor, release in destructor).
If an exception gets thrown, causing your RAII object scope to be exited, then no problem - the object destructor gets called and the resource gets released (this is the entire point of RAII - to make resource allocation and deallocation automatic and bullet-proof).
If you are creating spaghetti-like cross-referencing data structures, then that is either poor design or something you are doing deliberately because you need it. In either case, it has nothing to do with RAII, and RAII will work as normal and release resources when the managing object is destroyed (e.g. by going out of scope).
RAII could obviously be used to allocate/free a resource (e.g. temp buffer) from a free list, but is not really relevant to arena allocation unless you are talking about managing the allocation/release of the entire arena. The whole point of an arena allocator is the exact opposite of RAII - you are deliberately disconnecting individual item allocation from release so that you can instead do a more efficient bulk (entire arena) release.