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lazideyesterday at 1:21 PM3 repliesview on HN

Be careful you don’t end up with people who have constant emotional problems that need fixing - or that you’re 100% sure that you’ll never need to say ‘no’. Speaking from experience.

Some people really don’t like ‘no’, especially when they have emotional problems.


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Aurornisyesterday at 2:12 PM

Another pitfall with this approach is when someone has constant emotional but irrational reactions to everything. Being the person who validates their emotions becomes harmful if they’re over-reacting or developing harmful emotional reactions and you’re always there to validate them.

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n4r9yesterday at 1:36 PM

I've heard that's true; compassion and empathy can be a draw for highly insecure people. You need to balance it with assertiveness and self-regulation, which are also part of emotional intelligence.

dapperdrakeyesterday at 5:51 PM

Then their emotions are not their only problem.