alt Hacker News> It took decades for my wife to finally get through and explain not every problem she voices is something that needs a solution.
There is a great YT video on this topic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
It's not about the nail!
> It took decades for my wife to finally get through and explain not every problem she voices is something that needs a solution.
There is a great YT video on this topic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
It's not about the nail!
Yeah so far there's not enough nuance in the discussion.
I also like to separate between 1) solvable vs unsolvable problems: e.g. you cannot solve a deceased relative.
Also 2) first time vs multiple repeat problems
If find it very irritate someone is venting to me repeatedly about solvable problems.
But if it's a 1 time unsolvable problem, then it's important to be in listening mode.