> I frame it not as turning a dial down, but as switching channel from practical problem-solver to emotional problem-solver.

This perspective was a good stepping stone for me, but then I realized I needed bigger changes to keep growing. However I defined the problem to be solved, I was still setting up a dynamic that was arrogant. I thought I was air traffic control when others were looking for a copilot. Somebody along for the ride with them, not just requesting information about them and offering commentary from the ground.

Reading _How to Know a Person_ helped me a lot.