alt Hacker NewsTwo takes:
* never meet your heroes/heroines
* when you meet f2f with people you've known for decades online, prepared to be whelmed, under or over, depending.
People IRL are very often not what you projected. I learned this from UK mailing list interactions over 40 years ago.
What were the main attributes that led to varying states of whelmed?
One reason I love text discourse is that it gives me time to thoughtfully respond. My wife is super witty and can be instantly funny and social when she wants. It takes me more time to match that sociable wit.
My hunch is that wit-rate would be a contributing whelm factor.