You have identified the crux of the problem, just like mathematics writing down the “right” theorem is often half or more of the difficulty.

In the case of digital systems it can be much worse because we often have to include many assumptions to accommodate the complexity of our models. To use an example from your context, usually one is required to assume some kind of fairness to get anything to go through with systems operating concurrently but many kinds of fairness are not realistic (eg strong fairness).