This person simply does not want to be involved in making autonomous killing machines. What does that have to do with trans?

I’m not sure it makes much sense to call this naive. When the issue is a moral one, conflicts like this are almost inevitable. Ethical convictions often collide with political or institutional decisions. If a company decides to work with the military and someone finds that fundamentally incompatible with their values, stepping away may simply be the only coherent option for them. It’s sometimes just moral consistency. Moral inconsistency can create deep inner conflict and real psychological distress. This being said, many queer people (not only trans people) seem to develop particularly inclusive values, perhaps because they have personally experienced the consequences of harassment, exclusion, or violence. Having gone through that kind of experience can make someone more sensitive to the vulnerability of others.

putting aside the obvious gender-based prejudice in this comment-

since when did the view that "humans should be in the loop before murderbots target and kill someone" become a "naive moral absolutist view of the world"? we're resigned to building the terminator now?

It's you.

Are you keeping your own absolutist assumptions in-check?

what the hell are you talking about ?