It really seems you have no idea what you’re talking about.
I have a couple of friends married for about 4-5 years, with a 4-years old son and a one year old daughter. They both have graduate degrees and stable jobs. They are near 40 years old.
Man, they are two zombies. They are drained. They push forward for the immense love of their kids but it’s incredibly evident they’re drained.
And the thing is… having kids at almost 40 should really be discouraged. They simply don’t have the same energy they had when they were 20, of course. Heck, i’m 33 and it’s evident to me I don’t have the same energy as when I was 23.
This modern idea that one should postpone having kids is incredibly stupid, I hope at some point society will self-correct somehow.