What hardware are you on?
On my old Ryzen 3600X running Arch it's a lot faster. Does the UI eat so much performance on OSX?
$ time emacs -Q -e kill-emacs
real 0m0.076s
user 0m0.058s
sys 0m0.018s
$ time nvim -es --cmd 'vim.cmd("q")'
real 0m0.028s
user 0m0.005s
sys 0m0.003s
vim still is a lot faster though.
> On my old Ryzen 3600X running Arch
> vim still is a lot faster though.
you might want to make sure you're comparing apples to apples though. the "emacs" command most likely is going to load the GUI emacs so a lot of gui libraries (if you're running a recent emacs then even GTK libraries) whereas the nvim command isn't going to load gui libraries at all.
maybe try with a non-gui version of emacs (or maybe calling emacs -nw)