alt Hacker News> Nobody will fall in love and start a relationship/family with you for showing up and fulfilling some list of criteria.
The "date-me doc" community might disagree:
* https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/02/style/date-me-docs.html
* https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/in-defense-of-describable-d...
* https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/highlights-from-the-comment...
I recently dated a DMA in her 30s, and while incredibly talented and respected within her field, she had no experience sharing a life with someone else. As selfish and unfair as she said she felt, she wasn't wasn't ever willing to compromise.
I'm not new to dating educated professionals, and it seems to be an unfortunate recurrence balancing being torn between wanting a partner and family and worrying that any misstep could jeopardize their career or cost them opportunity.