> It’s admirable that someone would would that

I guess it could be that. It sounds like you are hinting at it being like a sacrifice almost: they’d rather be doing something else but they forced themselves in to make a better life for their family. It’s like being doctor in US used to be (or still is), when someone would rather not deal with blood and guts but it’s something they’ll force themselves into for a better life.

I suppose one difference here might be if it’s their family pushing this choice or they do it intrinsically. Will they be disappointed in themselves in the end, or the person who pushed them into that path if it doesn’t work out.