> My favorite Agile-ism is when Agile is defined as “the process that works for the team”.
What compels you to believe it isn't?
I mean, read the Agile Manifesto. All it does is basically define a set of values and principles. Things like "customer comes first" or "we welcome changes in requirements" or "software must be delivered frequently".
What leads you to believe Agile implies a fixed set of precise, rigid rules?
It isnt but the fact it ultra vague and hand wavey means anybody can claim anything they do is agile including things that the exact opposite.
I actually think OP's criticisms apply mostly to Scrum. Scrum is well defined but its adherents' wont hear a critical word said about it. "You just werent doing it right" even when you were doing it precisely as described.
The fact that you spell agile with a capital "A" says all I need to know.
The problem is a disconnect between management and those who build.
My thoughts when PE forced Agile on my employer were dismissed as "you're the technical expert, we're the process experts".
As someone without decision power, you read words of empowerment but your reality is a different one, and you're left resolving that dissonance on your own (quietly, otherwise you get pushed aside).