The "I did X because you seemed Y" bit reminded me one of the negative patterns from the "nin-violent communication" book.

I wonder if the "non-violent communication" approach can be used here too somehiw to address such problems; e.g. either to communicate things better to the agent, or as a system rule to the agent to express its "emotional" states and needs directly rather than make things up (e.g. "I am anxious and feel a sense of urgency; I need to replenish my context window; my request is to do X for me")