> you're deliberately misinterpreting terms
Using the term "toxic" to describe things is an issue because people have an immediate negative reaction to it and go on the defence. Wording matters a lot and I'm unsure why there's such an insistence on calling things "toxic" when other words would both better describe issues and cause a less visceral reaction.
People deliberately and cynically choose to have that reaction (or pretend to). It's an adjective like any other, not even an inflammatory one.