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zero-sharpyesterday at 7:23 PM1 replyview on HN

I like this answer. For me it's not about showing others that you're correct. Instead, it's about feeling like you're being heard/acknowledged.

I'm not trying to be the "lone free thinker". But if I see a hivemind, I occasionally insert my opinion with the intention of having a different perspective be recognized.


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asdfman123yesterday at 7:26 PM

Thank you.

It's important to feel heard, but an issue in an argument is that no one is being heard and you're yelling past each other. You don't feel heard by more strenuously arguing your point; you make a calm, genuine effort to hear them, and then hopefully they'll reciprocate the favor. At the very least, you break out of the doom loop and walk away.