This is odd.

When things like this surface, I try to see how I focused on the gap leading up to it, and trying to fix it, and hope I am not focusing on the gap and questioning can draw attention to it and reinforcing it. This means more attention is drawn to what is not wanted by questioning it, instead of being clear that the intention is to ensure in all cases, shapes and forms it no longer happens.

Instead, mention what you require, repeatedly, and also mention what you do not want ever to happen and it might be different.