As I understand it, in teaching there's an idea of the "Zone of Proximal Development" (ZPD). Some things you can do without help, other things you can only do if others do it for you, and then in between there's all the stuff that you can do with some amount of assistance. Being in this zone is important for learning, at least in theory.

I suspect that's kind of happening here. If you're trying to learn something too abstract or distant from what you currently know, you'll probably use more polished or eli5-y sorts of material, because you don't yet have the skills to understand a more complex version. You're probably not in the ZPD. But if you can figure some things out by yourself, possibly with some amount of help, then you're in the learning zone and can meaningfully progress.

I have similar experiences to you with 3B1B - it's interesting, but I rarely retain anything meaningful after I've finished - and I think it's because he has to explain every part for me to understand what's going on. I'm not in the zone of proximal development because I can't do enough of the work myself. So the end result is an interesting video where someone explains a cool concept to me, but it's not learning because it's not also doing all the foundation work that gets me to the point where I can understand the video for myself.