you've definitely been doing this longer than i have, but our outlook and recent experiences sound very similar. also been diagnosed recently, also on similar extended sabbatical/unemployment, also come across as a dick, also trying to mask less because burn out.

got an email address in my profile if you'd be interested in talking at some point about something, or even talking about nothing in particular. (i don't normally do this sort of HN networking stuff, i find it super cringe. but there we go).