Now I'm confused whether my observing patterns of behaviour and recurring beliefs clustered among people from my own part of the world are in fact racism or bigotry. Am I being indecent? Am I self-hating? Are others tolerhating? I only wish some white night would unambiguously tut-tut me or else give me a pass.
You're perhaps being parochial. If you lived in some other part of the world, are you sure you wouldn't observe something similar?
I've lived in four countries on three continents, from third world to first world, and human behavior is pretty constant across all of them.