alt Hacker News> Your assumption is reductive and self-absorbed.
This is a good example of productive direct communication without sugarcoating. I find it much more productive, for both human and LLM interaction, than something like:
"I wonder if that view might be oversimplifying a complex situation and focusing mostly on how it relates to you. There may be some other angles worth exploring."
or
"I think there might be a bit more nuance to consider here, and it could help to look at it from a wider perspective beyond personal experience."
> Obnoxious people have repeatedly shown to be detrimental to productivity at the organizational level.
You confused directness and openness with obnoxiousness here. The issue with many orgs is they foster fakeness and beating around the bush in an attempt not to offend the easily offended people. This trend also infected the companies from countries with way more direct culture in an attempt to accommodate people from indirect cultures.
No… the way I said it was actually deliberately obnoxious— the appropriate direct workplace response would be: “that seems oversimplified. I disagree. Here’s why:”
Calling you self-absorbed added nothing of substance to the comment. It was an assumption about your mental state and a judgement of your intent based on that. There was no factual analysis or actionable insight. It was just one person explicitly stating that they feel the other person is dumber or maybe less mentally disciplined. It turned valid, direct feedback into an insult. It is exactly the type of thing that alienates people for no benefit beyond pumping up the speaker’s ego.