Author here, thank you, that means a lot coming from you. Pion was the prior art I pointed the webrtc-rs maintainers at. And pion/sctp#12 is super relevant. A known, proposed fix years before we hit it.

"The hardcoding we all settle for" might be the epigraph for the whole incident. webrtc-rs invited a PR for the configurable-MTU + better default half [webrtc-rs/webrtc#806] to unblock folks today. Whether PMTUD gets implemented will be interesting to see.