> Stoicism in Ancient Rome was COMPLETELY about controlling your emotions,

This is so false it deserves comment. For example, the SEP for Stoicism [1]. You'll notice that the first entire two sections are Physical Theory and Logic. Ethics comes later and it isn't until 4.3 (after Telos and Virtue) that you get to indifference. From the intro:

"Stoic philosophy was, from Zeno onwards, conceived of as comprising three parts: physics (phusikê), logic (logikê), and ethics (êthikê)."

I think you are over-indexing on one work by one Stoic. There is much, much more to actual Stoicism than "controlling your emotions".

1. https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/stoicism/