Lagrangian / Hamiltonian mechanics, the principle of least action, always seemed neat, in L&L and other places I encountered it, until I tried doing exactly what you're saying: gaining an intuitive understanding. At that point it just never made sense to me and seemed like a gratuitous deus ex machina that happens to work beautifully but for no apparent reason. You won't be surprised to learn I dropped out of my STEM program shortly after, though I keep a keen interest in the topic.
About the stationary action concept: Yeah, it looks impenetrable, but here's the thing: there is a way of looking at it from just the right angle, and then becomes transparent.
Part of the story is this: the actual criterion is: the true trajectory corresponds to a point in variation space where the derivative of the action (derivative wrt applied variation) is zero.
In the cases examined when the concept was first introduced I suppose that in those cases the derivative-is-zero point was seen to be a minimum. From there, I suppose, came a supposition that there was some form of minimization at play.
However, within the scope of classical mechanics there are also classes of cases such that at the point in variation space corresponding to the true trajectory the action is at a maximum.
The above, and other aspects, are discussed in a resource that I created.
https://cleonis.nl/physics/phys256/energy_position_equation....
In the resource the mathematics is illustrated with interactive diagrams. Move sliders to sweep out variation. The diagram shows how the kinetic energy and the potential energy respond.
About interpretation: As we know: motion along the true trajectory has the property that at every point in time the rate of change of kinetic energy matches the rate of change of potential energy. As we know: that property is known as the work-energy theorem.
The criterion derivative-wrt-variation-is-zero corresponds mathematically to the property: rate-of-change-of-kinetic-energy-matches-the-rate-of-change-of-potential-energy.
In the resource a two stage process is presented:
- Derivation of the work-energy theorem from F=ma
- Transformation from the work-energy theorem to classical mechanics stationary action
Of course: when you look at the work-energy theorem you wouldn't expect that it can be transformed to classical mechanics stationary action. The transformation consists of multiple steps. In the resource I present it step by step; for each step the logic and consistency is readily recognizable.
For me, having the breakdown into mathematical elements available changed my whole perspective on classical mechanics stationary action.
I hope I can persuade you to check out the resource