I think there is in fact a discrepancy between displaying flags and advocating directly for gendered violence:

> Debian contributor "NoisyCoil" said that they had wanted to argue in favor of keeping the packages, but after looking at the content they had decided against it:

> > I went peeking at the package and, unless I'm completely missing something, the second offensive Italian fortune says that women's "no"s should be interpreted as "yes", while the third one explicitly calls for violence on women [1]. Like, it literally says women should be beaten on a regular basis. I'm afraid I can't help you here, sorry.

from https://lwn.net/Articles/1031750/, linked in the fine article

Is there no project safe from these kinds of obnoxious neo-busybodies?

You'd have to ask the respective, different sets of people involved in each situation.

What is offensive on the Ukrainian flag?