While I am also struggling with the dems reaction to the DSA I do still think the allergy to power is a problem.
I have caused some flame wars and/or been removed from dem leaning groups by asking if a candidate or the person speaking would be willing to use 100% of the power lent to them by my vote to enact their policy goals. I didn’t even expect it to be inflammatory, but apparently being frank about power being power is inappropriate.
> would be willing to use 100% of the power lent to them by my vote to enact their policy goals
This probably branded you as an extremist. Those aren’t usually useful to a non-extremist political movement. If you made it clear you were open to compromise and weren’t looking to burn the system down to make a point, you might gain better reception.