You're right about that.

Linux needs a way for userspace processes to participate in the kernel's shrinker system for reclaiming memory under pressure. Watching memory PSI is too coarse. MADV_FREE is too complicated and indiscriminate. You could imagine a notification FD, but then you've just reinvented PSI. You could imagine a synchronous signal, but everyone hates signals and won't couple any new functionality to them.

Shrinker-BPF attached to a memfd perhaps? A BPF shrinker could not only choose which pages to evict in a non-stupid way, but could notify userspace in some sane manner (e.g. setting a bitmask somewhere) that it's done so.

(Zero-fill as "notification" is insane and doesn't actually work because zero is a perfectly valid value in a lot of contexts.)