If you share biggoted opinions when people didn't ask you, you don't seem very likable so it might specifically be a you thing.

Ah, the "I don't hate the gays I just wish they'd keep that at home!"

Same. If the whole point is "people should be left alone to do what they want" then fine, but that should also include my right to think, "eh yeah, that's a bit weird".

And quite frankly, I think many people in the furry community enjoy being thought weird - for many it's sort of the point.

I guarantee you've met a furry and not known it.