alt Hacker News> If you do shallow smalltalk (as it is very common in the USA), you signal that you only want a shallow relationship.
That sounds like an extremely obnoxious judgement.
> If you want a deep friendship, better bring something deep to the table.
At some point sure. Are you suggesting launching into deep conversation when you meet someone?
> Are you suggesting launching into deep conversation when you meet someone?
I am strongly suggesting not to start with shallow smalltalk, as it is common in the USA.
I would start with serious conversations when I meet someone to get a feeling. But if the "vibe" is right, you can indeed get deep rather soon.